Change is a constant in life, and while it can be daunting at times, it’s important to embrace it and find ways to make the most of it. Change can feel overwhelming, however, with the right mindset and tools, you can navigate the uncertainty and come out stronger on the other side.
Change and how to lean in
Change can be hard because it disrupts our routines, habits, and comfort zones. As humans, we have a natural tendency to seek stability and avoid uncertainty. When we are faced with a change, we are forced to adapt to a new reality, which can be uncomfortable and sometimes frightening.
“The only thing that is constant is change” My grandmother used to say with a twinkle in her eye, as she dragged on her 8th cigarette for the day, “you can choose to own the change or run from it”. My formidable grandmother Dorita was a woman ahead of her time, she was someone who challenged societal norms and pushed boundaries. Her ideas and perspectives could be described as unconventional or even controversial for her time, and I adored her for it. “There are 24 hours in a day Robine, use them wisely”.
The hard thing about things changing is that it often requires us to put in effort, time, and energy to implement or make a change. It might require us to learn something new, adjusting to a different environment, or rethinking our perspectives and even our tightly held beliefs.
This can be challenging and can cause us to feel overwhelmed or discouraged. Is this really worth the effort? Our crocodile brain is uninterested in putting in any kind of effort and understanding that you must consciously push past that layer of our mind palace to access the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for motivating us to change.
The prefrontal cortex is the front part of our brain and is responsible for our self-regulation and impulse control, which are important for overcoming habitual behaviours and making choices that align with our goals and values. It also helps us to anticipate the potential outcomes of our actions and weigh the costs and benefits of different courses of action, which can motivate us to make changes that will lead to more positive outcomes.
Change can be hard because it challenges our sense of stability, requires effort and adaptation, and can be associated with loss. However, change can also be an opportunity for growth, learning, and new experiences, so it’s important to approach it with an open mind and a willingness to embrace the unknown.
Change is inevitable so that means we need to find our own tactics and ways to navigate it successfully. Think of anyone you know who you view as successful or a high achiever. Chances are if you sat down and spoke with them, they will share stories of how they overcame challenges and had to lean into change of some kind.
Whether it’s a change in our personal life, work life, or global events, coping with change is essential for our mental health and wellness.
Here are some tips on how to cope with change:
1. Accept the Change
The first step in coping with change is to accept it. Not as easy as it sounds, especially if the change is unexpected or unwanted. We know from research that resisting change will only make the process more challenging. Instead, try to embrace the change and focus on the positive aspects of it.
2. One bite of the elephant at a time.
Change can often be overwhelming, and it can be tempting to try and tackle everything at once. However, this can be counterproductive, and it’s important to take things one step at a time. Break down the change into smaller, manageable tasks, and focus on completing them one by one.
3. Connect with your trusted humans and ask for help and support
Change can be lonely, and it’s important to reach out for support when you need it. This can be a friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Talking to someone can help you process your feelings and gain a different perspective on the situation.
4. Take Care of Yourself. Most of us aren’t good at this.
When coping with change, it’s essential to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. Self-care can help reduce stress and anxiety and give you the energy to tackle the change.
5. Seek out the good
Even in the midst of change, there are positive aspects to be found. Look for the silver lining and focus on the opportunities that the change may bring. This can help shift your mindset from one of fear to one of hope and optimism.
6. Practice Mindfulness. If you have tried and failed, try again!
Mindfulness is a technique that involves focusing on the present moment without judgment. It can help reduce stress and anxiety and increase feelings of calmness and relaxation. Try incorporating mindfulness into your daily routine, whether it’s through meditation, deep breathing, or simply taking a few moments to be still and quiet.
7. Be Patient
“Patience is not just the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” Joyce Meyer.
It’s important to be patient when coping with change. Change takes time, and it’s essential to give yourself time to adjust and adapt. Be kind to yourself and remember that everyone copes with change differently.
In conclusion, coping with change can be challenging, but it’s essential for our mental health and wellness. By accepting the change, taking things one step at a time, reaching out for support, taking care of ourselves, finding the positive, practicing mindfulness, and being patient, we can navigate the process with greater ease and resilience.
Here at Umeco we have a number of offerings through our groups, circles and marketplace services and products to help you lean in and navigate change. Let us know if you would like some support to find the right mix of offerings for you and your situation.